{"product_id":"hold-on-to-your-kids-why-parents-need-to-matter-more-than-peers","title":"Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers","description":"\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eThis parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it--now featuring a new chapter\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eWINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD - \"A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting.\"--Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of \u003ci\u003eReviving Ophelia\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eChildren take their lead from their friends: Being \"cool\" matters more than anything else. Shaping values, identity, and codes of behavior, peer groups are often far more influential than parents. But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous--it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eIn \u003ci\u003eHold On to Your Kids, \u003c\/i\u003e acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with psychologist Gordon Neufeld to pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to \"reattach\" to your children and earn back their loyalty and love.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBy helping to reawaken our instincts, Neufeld and Maté empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of enrichment, security, and warmth for their children.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\" \u003cb\u003eHold on to Your Kids\u003c\/b\u003e blows in from Canada like a Blue Northern, bringing us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting. The authors integrate psychology, anthropology, neurology and their own personal and professional experiences as they examine the 'context' of parenting today. This is a worthy book with practical implications for mom and dad.\" \u003cbr\u003e--Dr. Mary Pipher, author of \u003cb\u003eReviving Ophelia\u003c\/b\u003e and \u003cb\u003eThe Shelter of Each Other\u003c\/b\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003ci\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e\" \u003cb\u003eHold on to Your Kids\u003c\/b\u003e is visionary book that goes beyond the usual explanations to illuminate a crisis of unrecognized proportions. The authors show us how we are losing contact with our children and how this loss undermines their development and threatens the very fabric of sociey. Most importantly they offer, through concrete examples and clear suggestions, practical help for parents to fulfill their instinctual roles. A brilliant and well written book, one to be taken seriously, very seriously.\" \u003cbr\u003e--Peter A. Levine Ph.D., International teacher and author of the best selling books: \u003cb\u003eWaking the Tiger\u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003e, \u003c\/i\u003e \u003cb\u003eHealing Trauma\u003c\/b\u003e and \u003cb\u003eIt Won't Hurt Forever, Guiding Your Child through Trauma \u003c\/b\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"The thoughts and perspectives presented by the authors are informative -- even inspirational -- for those who choose to dedicate their lives and energy to students.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eBulletin of the National Association of Secondary School Principals\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"With original insights on parent-child attachments and how parents can restore them, this is a book for revitalizing families and rekindling the song in their children's hearts.\" \u003cbr\u003e--Raffi, children's troubadour, founder of Child Honoring Society Institute\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"With simple ideas and steps, this book is directed not only to parents, but to all those -- educators, social workers, counselors -- whose lives and work bring them into contact with children.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eQuill \u0026amp; Quire\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"Though this is Neufeld's personal theory, Maté ( \u003cb\u003eScattered Minds\u003c\/b\u003e \u003ci\u003e, \u003c\/i\u003e \u003cb\u003eWhen the Body Says No\u003c\/b\u003e) has expressed his colleague's ideas in precise and hard-hitting prose that makes complex ideas accessible without dumbing them down. The result is a book that grabs hard, with the potential to hit many parents where they live.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eThe Edmonton Journal\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\"[M]ay serve as a loud wake-up call for mothers and fathers....this one offers what many of the others do not -- that rare commodity known as common sense.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eWinnipeg Free Press\u003c\/i\u003e \u003cbr\u003e\u003cb\u003e\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\"With the benefit of 30 years of research and experience, Neufeld has crafted a coherent, compelling theory of child development that will cause an immediate frisson of recognition and acceptance in its readers. His approach has the power to change, if not save, the lives of our children.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eNational Post\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"The authors present doable strategies to help parents help their kids. If their advice is taken to heart, there's hope there will be more warmth and security all round.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eThe Georgia Straight\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003ePraise for \u003ci\u003eScattered Minds\u003c\/i\u003e by Gabor Maté, M.D.\u003cbr\u003e\u003c\/b\u003e\"Rare and refreshing. . . . Here you will find family stories, an accessible description of brain development and sound information. You will also find hope.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eThe Globe and Mail\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\"An utterly sensible and deeply moving book written for a general audience.\" \u003cbr\u003e-- \u003ci\u003eThe Vancouver Sun\u003c\/i\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eGordon Neufeld, Ph.D\u003c\/b\u003e, is a Vancouver-based clinical psychologist, internationally renowned as a foremost authority on child development. His Neufeld Institute delivers many courses he has created for parents, educators, and helping professionals on several continents. He is recognized for his unique ability to unlock the clues to seemingly complex problems of child rearing and education.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cb\u003eGabor Maté, M.D.\u003c\/b\u003e, is a physician and the New York Times bestselling author of \u003cem\u003eThe Myth of Normal, When the Body Says No, Scattered Minds, and In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts. \u003c\/em\u003eA sought-after authority on stress, mind-body health, ADHD, parenting, and addictions, he travels extensively, addressing health personnel, teachers, and lay audiences across North America and internationally.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e \u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eBallantine Books\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePub Date: August 15, 2006\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e0.9\" H x 7.9\" L x 5.2\" W\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e368 pages\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003ePaperback\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c!----\u003e","brand":"Penguin Random House","offers":[{"title":"Default Title","offer_id":48609734492358,"sku":"tcv1793762975508","price":13.6,"currency_code":"USD","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/0745\/1725\/0246\/files\/hold-on-to-your-kids-why-parents-need-to-matter-more-than-peers_1.jpg?v=1793763007","url":"https:\/\/sparkstylestore.shop\/products\/hold-on-to-your-kids-why-parents-need-to-matter-more-than-peers","provider":"My Store","version":"1.0","type":"link"}